He isn’t getting it-Part II



The following conversation took place earlier this evening.

Hubs: Your not drinking is hard on me you know.

Me: ( incredulously) How is it hard for you?

Hubs: I feel guilty drinking in front of you. ( as he stands in front of me, sea breeze in hand.)

Me: (once again scouring the room for a blunt object) Really?




11 thoughts on “He isn’t getting it-Part II

  1. My husband recently told me my problem is; “LOA =Lack of Alcohol.” ( I have problems,but that is not one of them πŸ˜‰ .
    He too is drinking in front of me and I suspect it bothers him. Also, I am changing, I am not the same person I was when drinking. Stay the course, you are doing so well and taking all the necessary steps. There will always be an obstacle and I suspect over time he will recognize how much better things are.

  2. Hang in there. You’re doing so well. He didn’t like the way you were drinking, did he? It may take some time for him to come round to the idea that there isn’t a “middle ground”. I think my husband would also like me to “have the odd drink” or drink some nights of the week. I took my mum out for her birthday and felt guilty, felt like I was being rude, because I didn’t have a drink with her. When you think about it, having a drink just to make someone else feel more relaxed or to allow them to enjoy their drink more is utterly ludicrous. It’s weird how ingrained an attitude it is in our culture. Hope you’re still getting support at the meetings, and here online. xxx

    • All of you online people are my lifeline most days. I still haven’t found a great fit in a meeting, but I am soldering on, and will try a new one at Noon on Wednesday.
      I have a friend who has been sober for 18 years that I email with almost daily.
      It is hard, as we all know, but the alternative is worse.
      Thanks for the support. πŸ™‚

  3. That used to be one of my excuses for drinking – so that visitors wouldn’t feel bad drinking on their own. Summer will be interesting when we’re due lots of visitors. I think a few of them will feel uncomfortable. But this is my sobriety and I’m dealing with it. We can’t deal with how everybody is feelings too. That just isn’t fair.

    • I will. It is really not getting better with him. Big speed bumps right now. Ugh. But the good news is I am getting stronger and more mentally sharp, so he is getting a good run for his money these days. πŸ™‚ Hopefully we will work it through.

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