Living My Best Sober Life

I heard this twice at today’s meeting.  I have never heard it before.

I do not think I am doing that.

I am not even sure how to do it.

Any thoughts?



There was a lot of talk about mail yesterday.  Opening mail, not opening mail, leaving mail in piles, and being afraid of mail.  I was lost.

And dogs, do all recovering alcoholics have dogs?  How do dogs relate to recovery?


13 thoughts on “Living My Best Sober Life

  1. Dear Sober learning,

    This is what I try: I try to live by the rule that I should fix exactly what I fear / do not want to fix. Before it was drinking. Now it is not doing chores, post, income things, work etc. And then, while doing the things I don’t want to do, I check what growth experiences come along. All in all it is applicable to any life, sober or not.

    I take this approach since I have seen many friends be in therapy for years but exactly not changing the thing that they ‘should’. I was depressed but still drinking like crazy. Stopped drinking, stopped being depressed. I did get loads of other unpleasant emotions but that’s ok, that’s part of quitting, part of the learning process.

    Hope it helps 🙂

  2. Hmm. I can almost imagine I think I know what that might possibly mean. Sort of. To be sure, all we have is today. It’s a little disingenuous to see my life as this constantly onward-moving, upward-moving, further-up and further-in progressive romp through the hills and dales. Some days life sucks. I am still compelled to make right choices. So what’s the measuring stick for all this?

    My dog is a good friend. An understanding soul. In my twisted life experience, any dog over 55 lbs. is a gift from God.

  3. Not sure of the mail thing…who knows. As for dogs…yeah, lots of sober folks have a very strong connection with their dogs. Not that non-alcoholics don’t give a damn about theirs…but for example, when I peruse the recovery forums (not blogs), so many of the avatars are of dogs. tons of them. There is some sort of identification there…but I am not sure what it is. (Those will say of course that God spelled backwards is dog…lol)

    And as for the expression…hmmm…can’t say I have heard it said around here much. read into it as much or as little as you want, I suppose. What I get out of it is am I living to my full potential? Am I working the steps in my life? Am I half-assing it? And of course, we can always say that we can do better…so I guess it’s a personal yardstick to where are today compared to yesterday.

    or not.

    Ha ha…but good questions nonetheless 🙂


    • I stumbled onto your blog this morning I have had problems with drinking recently to the point that even I noticed and it cost me a relationship. I have thought about quitting for some time now and have decided to take the plunge today. reading your thoughts have certainly helped. I just bought tickets to a concert this morning that will be in November. I’m going to use that as a milestone to keep my eye on between now and then. I figure what I will save in beer money will pay for the tickets soon. I look forward to reading your blog. You write in a way that I can relate to.

      • Hi Mark, welcome to sober blogging land. If you think you need to quit drinking, you probably do. I wasted YEARS thinking about quitting drinking.
        This time, I chose my marriage over the booze. The worst day ever was when my husband called me a DRUNK. He was so angry, yet he was so right.
        It took me another month to do it. It is the best decision I have made in a long time. I am going to be honest with you, it is fucking hard, but if you want it bad enough, you will do it.
        So far, I have not regretted it. I love having my life back, feeling great, sleeping well, and having a good time with my husband.
        Feel free to contact me, I don’t have all the answers, but the early days are fresh in the memory bank.
        Good luck

  4. i think mail relates to drinking in that it is best that you deal with it everyday. you can let it go for a while but eventually you have to deal with it.that is just my guess

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